Domestic Violence in Hindi Movies

Recently, I started watching Hindi movies properly after a gap of over 20 years.
I used to avoid Hindi movies since I became adult and no longer forced to go with my parents as I used to dismiss them as emotional melodramatic Fights, Songs and Dances.

The theme of this blog is that the Hindi Movies have indeed been describing violence against men and women and possibly at equal magnitudes all along. They have shown equal amount of negative female and male characters in thousands of movies. They also show that the main person who inflicts violence on a woman is rarely her husband.

I wish to focus on movies that are reasonably successful and they depict violence, deception against the male playing a role of boyfriend or a husband.

With this blog, I am starting a list of Hindi movies that contain very specific and direct actions of violence against the husband in a matriomonial relationship. With some luck, we can get the digital videos and then create a collage of all these Hit movie using snippets from all of this. Please help me make this into a formidable collection.

First movie that I'd like to list is King Uncle, 1993
In King Uncle, a wife and a mother of 3 children is shown abandoning her husband for sake of her love life with a rich boyfriend and is the pivotal moment of the story.

SECOND Movie is Rishtey, 2002

Here the WIFE is shown as gullible and manipulated by conniving Father IN LAW who is
out to do everything within his power to kill his poor son in law and destroy his marriage.

Anil Kapoor plays role of boxer named Suraj who is forced to leave boxing due to injury. He is married to Karishma Kapoor, who is daughter of rich man Amrish Puri.
Amrish Puri harasses him for a period of about 7 years forcibly separating his daughter from him using fabricated evidence. Anil Kapoor somehow fights and manages to revive health of his child, who was born with physical deficiency.

Other Movies in this Category are Gadar, DDLJ...

I am told that Govinda has been perennial disliked son-in-law but I stay away from his movies.

Third Movie is Mera Naam Joker, 1970

It is a classic Raj Kapoor movie. Raj Kapoor gets cheated and misled in love by three women, his teacher, a circus artist and a street tramp with dreams of becoming actress. I've been told that the story resonates Raj Kapoor's own life.

Fourth Movie is Dhoom 2

Abhishek Bacchan is rebuked by his pregnant wife and his sidekick about his capability of getting married on his own. It was a light banter of talk and overall designed to humilate the husband.

There is also a Fight Sequence in start of the movie where wive's and girl friends call to harass Abhishek and his sidekick with some demands which seems bit unreal only cause they are in middle of shoot out. Wives talking in that manner is not too believable.


Fifth is Akele Hum Akele Tum,1995

Role of Husband and wife played by Aamir Khan and Manisha Koirala. Someone from SIF has told me that this movie has something to do with life of Gulzar.

Once again financially stronger Father in Law persistently objects and creates rift in married life leading husband to go through separation, single parenting, court battle eventually to lose the custody of the child. Movie does end in a reunion.

Sixth is Zubaida, 2001

I have a very deep connection with this movie. I saw this movie in whole when my wife was pregnant and for reason I still never can fathom, my infant son used to sleep within minutes of me playing a song from this movie.

Here Karishma plays the lead role of a Mother who abandons her child. It is well balanced movie.

This is what some other review said for this movie

The main character, Zubeidaa, has overlapping shades to it. Zubeidaa has fiery feminist instincts and is rebellious and tempestuous until the end. At the same time she's feminine, vulnerable and very young. She chooses to live her life the way she wants to. After giving into paternal authority once in her first marriage, she isn't willing to throw away her chance for happiness the second time. Fully aware of the prince's previous marriage and family, she's ready to accept a strange environment and a different religion for the sake of love. She makes her choices and sacrifices willingly and knowingly. Karisma has surpassed herself as the passionate, defiant, willful and troubled Zubeidaa, the truly modern woman

Seventh is Hum Hain Rahi Pyar Ke,1993

This is a movie that has lot of female roles with many overlapping and conflicting roles. Aamir Khan plays role of Rahul who ends up taking responsibility of struggling business and three kids.

There is a song sequence "Chikni Soorat..." depicting sexual molestation of by female workers of his garment factory.

In same movie, two other actors Badlani and Maya (played by ?, Navneet Nishan) cause havoc in life of Aamir in their desperate attempts to make him marry Maya. Badlani is Sindhi Merchant who refused credit until he realised Maya wanted to marry him and then he was overly generous and manipulative.

There is also a sequence in which Juhi fakes role of his wife to prevent engagement. It is very clearly depicted that there were people who knew Juhi was lying openly but no one spoke to support Aamir as he was falsely humilated. In that particular narrative however, it was later revealed that drama of Juhi was justified since she loved him.

Further, in the same movie, it is noteworthy that Juhi refused domination of her father into deciding her marriage and ran off providing the love triangle in story.

To be expanded..... Waiting for tips....

Invitation to Dharna Against Legal Terrorism

Is the pain of a mother lesser when her son dies relative to when her daughter dies?

Is the pain of a sister lesser when her brother dies relative to when her sister dies?

Save Indian Family Foundation invites you to a peaceful gathering to protest against the rampant and blatant misuse of pro-women marital laws against men which are resulting in large scale suicides amongst married men.

Our IMMEDIATE Demands ARE :-

1. Clear the Pending cases in the Family Courts ASAP.

2. Allocate more experienced judges and increase the Family Courts.

3. Eliminate all gender biased in marital laws making them Gender Neutral.

4. Implements Checks within the system to prevent misuse of these laws.

5. Stop the treatment Men as FREE ATM MACHINES

6. Provide Services to Curtail High Rate of suicides of married men.

7. Establish National Commission for Men, and

8. Establish Men’s Welfare Ministry,

Please come to the gathering with your friends to share your views and to address the above or any related problems.

Date: 14th February 2009
Time: 9: 30 AM to 2: 00 PM
Venue: In front of Gandhi Statue on M.G. Road, Bangalore
Invitees: All citizens of India.
Proudly Supported by:-

1. Save Family Foundation, Delhi
2. MyNation Foundation, Delhi
3. Gender Human Rights Society, Delhi
4. Rakshak Foundation, Delhi
5. Mother’s and Sister’s Initiative, Delhi
6. Protect Indian Family Foundation, Mumbai
7. Indiya Kudumba Pathukappu Iyakkam Chennai
8. All India Forgotten Women, Hyderabad
9. Rishtey, Hyderabad
10. Save Indian Family Foundation, Nagpur
11. Bharat Bachao Sangathan, Kolkata.

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Free Soup Kitchen in A Five Star Hotel

Few days ago, I came across the site that talked about the Empowerment of Women. The Proposed Bill succinctly said wants to increase the representation of Women in Lok sabha, Rajya Sabha and other such hallowed political circles.

Have a read for it yourselves at and then proceed into rest of this blog.

The Women (Empowerment for equal participation) Bill, 2005

Somewhere within the bowels of the document (page 4), you will discover something. For sakeof convenience, let us call it the ______ (something) that hides in the DETAIL.
It reads and I quote
Women despite being nearly half of the country's population, still remain socially neglected and economically dependent on others who may be parents, husband or children, are educationally backward and an exploited lot. Majority of them are confined to their houses looking after their children and household chores. Many of them are still superstitious, orthodox and backward because literacy among them and more so in rural areas is very low. Now only more awakening has begun amongst women and they have started playing a vital role in the polity of the nation right from village Panchayat to Parliament of the nation.

Regardless of whether you browse, sprint, scroll or read character by character, you will realise that the above mentioned ______ (something) that hides in the DETAIL. is the justification presented for the need of the bill ...

Inspite of being just an ordinary mortal, I am hazarding a guess that I will not be the only one that finds the justification baseless, completely vague and filled with ambigious statements.

Let us take the hazardous route and start dissecting the article, Shall we?

The very first thing that you (and every one) ought to realise is that the women for whom the reservation are purportedly being proposed fall into at least one of these categories

• Educationally backward
• Economically Dependent
• Socially Neglected
• Confined to house
• Looking after Children & domestic chores.

You are free to imagine any everyday Indian women who would be able to survive past any one of these criterions:
Lets start at the low end, say a woman with very little Economical Standing and who does have a man in her life on whom she can fall back upon. Lets take the Zaaduwali bai in your building. To keep the example simple, let us endow her with marriage but no children yet.

Do you honestly believe that when the Zaaduwali bai is informed of this reservation made for people in her category, will jump up and down in a thrilled state and then run off to grab her entitlement?

I can't possibly imagine. NO!

All right, Ok, let us keep climbing up the economic ladder. How about the barely literate Salesgirl with lousy English at the corner shop who sold you your television set?

Will She be happy with the reservation and join the queue to grab her entitlement?

I can't possibly imagine. NO!

Ok, let us keep improving the woman of our imaginations who will fit the above categories and still be willing to run for the Rajya Sabha? Let us fast forward

How about a Doctor with first class Medical Degree currently having 3 kids aged 18, 16 and 12? Kids are not too old, not too young and can be expected to manage on their own for few hours. She does have a Servant to help her with domestic chores. Such a lady happens to be my aunt and is considered very ambitious and as such well endowed. She likes to express her opinions loudly, firmly and then stick to her guns. She could possibly do well as a Politician.

She ain't exactly Educationally Backward. She was confined to her house because of the children although she can now be considered somewhat free. She is well off in average Mumbai terms. She runs a good practice but not exactly thriving so she may be economically dependent on her husband for the major part. She is not Socially Neglected.

I asked her to consider this proposal of reservation and she told me a reply that actually summed up the whole problem very neatly for me (and us)
No, If I wanted to do good for society and freed up from all of my ties, I'd rather go and work in a hospital or a Jail as a Doctor rather than deal with politicians.

She is happy to deal with Convicts in a prison or impoverished in a hospital rather than politicians.

I give up, folks!!!

I cannot imagine a woman who will fall into any of the above categories and still be willing to fill such a position can express such exploited state?

Let us reverse the situation. Let us imagine a woman who would want to take advantage of this roles. These role may bring in certain amount of power and so strive upon power hungry men and women.

Clearly the women who will be queing up to get those seats will fall in neither of the categores above. Maybe they will be mothers but they will certainly not confined to the house because of the children or household chores.

As it stands, the DEVIL is indeed inside the Detail

It is like throwing up a Free Soup Kitchen inside a Five Star hotel.

For those who are unaware with the phrase soup kitchen, it is usually a community run service that gives bowl of hot nutritious(?) soup with a loaf of bread to all those people in society who'd starve otherwise as they cannot afford to pay for it on their own. Soup and bread are normally given for free.

No beggars or truly impoverished will be allowed inside the five star hotel anyway.
Those who can afford or even think of entering the hotel and do partake free soup and bread will certainly be able to pay for it at a five star rates.

The one thing that is, at the time of writing this unanswered is that what happens to unreserved positions. Are only men allowed on remaining unallocated seats?If No, What measures are present within the bill to prevent all-female Rajya Sabha or Lok Sabha?.

... And the Certificate of Appreciation of Honesty goes to ...

With this blog, I, the self nominated, appointed and the proclaimed JUDGE unilateraly nominate and award the CERTIFICATE OF HONESTY TO Ms. Bhawani, 38 yo, Tamil, Hindu Iyer Brahmin divorced businesswoman currently residing in Bangalore otherwise making herself known to the whole wide world by her Jeevansathi ID WYS5762. URL For the Post is http://www.jeevansathi.com/profile/matrimonial-1014291W4.htm#

All those who wish to oppose my Judgement and this award can go and fly a duck.

Let it be known to the world that Certificate of honesty is awarded to Ms. Bhawani for being Honest in declaring how well informed they keep their very intelligent and smart girl child who was born in March 2003 and lives with her natural womb-supplier. The advertisement proudly and in no uncertain terms says and I merely requote:

The natural father of the child does not have any visiting rights at all, nor any other contact (maintenance, alimony, or any other right over the child). As far as the child is concerned, she has no idea who her father is, and has never been made aware of fatherhood. The person who comes into my daughter’s life now will only be known as the father of the child.

Let it be known to the world that Certificate of honesty is awarded to Ms. Bhawani for being Honest in revealing the story of her marriage, the business and the future potential. She was married in Year 2002 and divorced by Mutual consent in January 2004. She was married in Year 2002 and had a child in March 2003. She reveals to the reader that her business has great potential but she is not able make most of it owing to the circumstances.

For all of you who have not yet pieced together the story of first marriage, please accept my humble attempts to fill-in-the-blanks. I do not know her husband but I feel I know him since I can understand some of his pain. I hope he is alive.

Ms. Bhawani married the the indifferent and irresponsible husband sometime in 2002 who made her pregnant by August 2002. What could the poor girl do. She only wanted to have some fun. She did not want to get pregnant. She did not want to live with him. She only wanted to marry him. But the damn fool was indifferent to her needs and in the supreme act of irresponsibility, he made her pregnant within no time of marriage.

Ms. Bhawani was forced to leave such an irresponsible man.

The indifferent husband started giving her hard time and tried to be with her so she went to the court. The indifferent husband showed up there and opposed the divorce and tried to see his child. He did not want to give her the divorce. The damn foolish husband tried to get his family to mediate, so all of them was harassed and the divorce proceedings in which Ms. Bhawani had to harass so many people was a very hard struggle.

Eventually the god-fearing Ms. Bhawani prevailed to put enough fear into the Bhawani Fearing sperm donor and his family and he gave Consent to the Divorce in January 2004.

Isn't it one of the fastest, if not the most fastest Divorce in Indian courts? Can anyone else dig up a data of divorce that was even faster?

At the time of making this Certificate of Appreciation for Honesty, I refuse to beqeuath the title of mother to Ms. Bhawani. I know that she has given birth to a girl. The man who gave sperm was the Sperm donor. The woman who gave birth was the Womb Supplier and now the care taker.

Rest of the advertisement is a sheer delight for the readers. Please send Rs. 51 today to have your own personal copy.

The succinctness with which it tells life story of Ms. Bhawani, a businesswoman with all the potentials and the circumstances in which she gave birth to a girl in March 2003 (five year child) through a short union in 2002 with the irresponsible man belonging to the harassing family is a sensational and must read.

The story is told in no uncertain terms tells the world how swiftly and surely the sperm donor was shown the door out of her life once he had finished his role as the Sperm donor.

Given the impeccable English and the elegance revealed in the advertisement, I can certainly vouch that the man was asked very politely to leave or choose his final and eternal resting place.

The breakneck speed with which the otherwise lethargic legal system of India granted her divorce in January 2004 is dazzling.

With that Honest Jeevansathi advertisement, she warns all the prospective grooms (oops! Sperm Donors) and his harassing families.

Be prepared that if you marry Ms. Bhawani, who incidentaly is also the youngest daughter of her own sibling, may still continue to retain the marital status that was already listed above.

The prospective sperm donor are free to decide whether he will allow Ms. Bhawani to retain the marital status of divorced her or allow her to convert it into a widow.

As said in the advertisement, Ms. Bhawani is after all a very understanding woman and she will be very cooperating manner able to guide you into choosing which poison to consume with your last supper. She is so well-versed in all household duties that she will dispose off your mortal remains well before they start to decompose and cause the unpleasant aroma. After all she is home loving, caring and knows how to add fear into every god-fearing heart.

So, without further ado, all those who fit following profile:

earn more than 5 lakhs in a year and are decent, gentlemanly, adjustable, understanding, cooperating Brahmin who is family loving (only family included in loving will be the family of Bhawani made up of father, 5 brothers and 5 sisters and off course the little girl).

If you possess all this gifts, you will be allowed to be called father by the 5 yo little girl of irresponsible and indifferent sperm donor.

Meet the King Santanu: The King of all opressed Men

Today my brain has been on a overdrive. I was reading The Mahabharat, the full edition printed by Bharatiya Vidya Bhavan. I’ve read it many times before but today was a very different experience.

My brain's being cooked up with thoughts and I hope to off load some of 'em here to see if it ignites anyone else besides me.

Coming back to the Mahabharat! Most novels start with a simple introduction. Mahabharat starts with a bang!!! In just 9 pages, it reveals the life story of man.

The man was king of entire Bharat. Yet he was the man who was opressed for many
years by not one but both of his wives. The man whose lineage was destroyed because of the actions from his wives.

The Mahabharata starts with a King Santanu who ruled from Hastinapura.

Hastinapura in those days was capital of our beautiful country Bharat or BharatVarsha. King Santanu was childless. There is no mention of King Santanu having any wives. One day out on hunting trip, King Santanu meets a beautiful maiden with whom he falls in love immediately.

HEY.... WAIT A ONE DAMN MINUTE.

He was The King and the nation which was supposed to have character and substance then present generation. So, how could the King fall in love with a woman before he knew her name? Did he not have any royal protocols to follow? Janmakshars to match? Dowries to demand?

… Anyway, let us continue with the story …

The beautiful maiden as it turns out was River Ganga in her human form. She too liked King Santanu and agreed to marry him but on a condition that he will never question her. He promises to not challenge her and they get married.

Hmmmmm, Interesting Isn't it?

The Bride sets a precondition before her marriage that she will live exactly on her terms and will never ever tolerate any challenge from the groom.

Who was calling shots? The Man or The Woman?

And we are told a bunkum fiction that modern day men demand dowry for getting married to women. We've got the whole freakin draconian (add your own expletives here) law IPC 498a that stops short of cooking men alive

Get real!!! Men marry women for all reasons other than money.
King Santanu wanted to marry because he wanted a heir for his throne. Most Men marry for they want to spread their seeds and continue their lineage.

Coming back to Mahabharata, King Santanu was a brave amongst men. Still he did not hesitate to think that Ganga was perhaps an enemy spy who might just turn and give away his Kingdom to someone else. There is no mention of him consulting with his ministers.

And, the King Santanu get married to the River Ganga in her human form.

And the Mahabharata epic slides into a top gear!!!

The union of King Santanu and Ganga is briefly described. Ganga was the ideal wife
for King Santanu. He was happy.

As it happens in with every healthy man-woman union, a child was born to them. A Son was born to the King. It was the first child born to King Santanu.

The new mother Ganga takes her first born male child and dumps him into her River form. This happened before the King would meet his son. The King saw his beloved wife throw her son into the River.

HAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHAT?

She killed a new born male child in broad daylight by throwing him into a river?
She killed the first born son of the King of the Bharatvarsha?
The Mother killed her own infant, her own child?

Why did she kill her own child? What kind of woman would do that?

Well these are kind of the questions that run through mind such as mine and maybe yours too. There is no mention of it crossing through the mind of King Santanu. Even if they did, he does not utter them to his wife Ganga and keeps his mouth shut as per his promise to protect his marriage.

A King of the Land keeps quiet and suppressed all his anger and natural instinct and manly rage. He did nothing against the killer of his first born son. Not even a Why for an explanation. A King has to stay quiet to save his marriage!! A King!!

What a sacrifice the man King Santanu had to go through to keep his marriage?

Just imagine what would be the plight of a modern husband. Imagine what he would have to do for his marriage?

When this thought hit me, it fell like a brick wall on me. Even reading of it for first time 5000 years from its happening made me sit up and bow my head with reverence to King Santanu!!!

King Santanu, please bless me. Please bless all of us. I am in man born 5000 years from you in the same country that you once ruled. In your days you were opressed even when you were the King and possibly the rulemaker.

Bharat is now named India and it is being ruined by new ministers who go on and lark that women are opressed and use that lame excuse to make more and more laws that oppress more and more men.

Every men, women and child of your country is in danger. Every marriage in India is on guillotine. My marriage was already butchered.

The ministers say that Domestic Violence is growing. Nah!! By all accounts it is Wild Violence. Mad Ministers are making rules that are making women of the nation wild. Wild with sense of revenge. Wild with greed.

Back to Mahabharata!

If killing one newborn male child is bad, the story of Mahabharata gets worse.
If killing one newborn male child is brilliant, the story of Mahabharata gets dazzling. As dazzling as a Sun.

Ganga kills 6 more newborn children of hers and King Santanu.

And King Santanu has nowhere to go. There is no mention of the King talking to
his ministers about actions of his wife. Maybe those poor ministers were married to and no one liked fouling up mood of one other. King Santanu had no one to whom he could talk to. No one to counsel him and his wife Ganga.

There was not even SIF in those days. I was not there. Jinesh was not there to demand Welfare ministry for men. So the poor King of the land, being a man had no option to stay quiet. All for the sake of preserving the marriage.

Indian Government, Renuka Chowdhury, Good ‘ol Kapil Dev and God only knows who else proclaim loudly on TV and say that killing a female newborn is crime!

Maybe they should also advertise for male infanticide equally. It is documented as being a phenomenon since the time of Mahabharata.

The Great history of Bharat documents that one such child killer was Ganga who killed her own infants. Another such child killer was Kamsa who killed children of his sister.

Kamsa was punished to death by fists of his nephew Krishna in about 20 years after his bad deeds.

What happened to Ganga? She was felicitated called mother of the civilisation.

AHEM!! Do you see certain certain something something (a double) here. No offence intended to Mother Ganga.

Some of you might even wonder what is with the King Santanu? After all He was a King.
He is described as Handsome and of course he was Rich. he is not the shy kind of fellow. He expressed "I love you and I'd like to marry you" within a moment of him seeing Ganga. And he stayed quiet.

To be perfectly honest, silence of the king at the unceremonious murder of his seven newborn male children is not the most horrendous part. It is not even close to being horrendous even if you consider that each of the child was the natural heir who could
grow into the King someday.

IMHO, The most horrendous part is that the King Santanu lived with Ganga and made her pregnant again and again. He made Ganga pregnant eight times. The epic says that
she was pregnant once a year so their marriage lasted 7-8 or 9 years.

Even assuming that pregnancies were concluded as optimally and efficiently as humanely possible and were consecutive, this cycle of pregnancy, birth and infanticide continued for six long years.

The King Santanu with all his raging male hormones remained with his wife Ganga. He lived with Ganga who at any given point of time in her married life was either pregnant for few months or at best cleansing herself for getting pregnant again.

I lived with my wife through most of her one pregnancy. To get gist of my experience of living with a pregnant woman, First imagine a forest floor fully hidden by dry leaves. You can hear the rattle of a poisonous rattlesnake but cannot sense the direction other than knowing that rattlesnake was hiding beneath those very leaves. Now, try walking. That is how I (man) experienced rattlesnake and I was married to a woman who seemed very good then.


King Santanu lived with a pregnant woman for at least six years but did not get to name his child or play with him!!

And no, luxury that most of us enjoy was not available for King Santanu. Sending Ganga back to her parent’s home for pregnancy was not an option. Her former home
is claimed to be Swarga. She was a goddess who had come to earth because of a curse.

I bet after imagining the plight of King Santanu, you will never be able to poke honest funny jab at a Government of India employee who has gargantuan beer belly.
You will never be able to say APND “Always Pregnant Never Delivering” and not remember King Santanu. (Well, at least I tried to convince you to let poor Govt employee relax at work. He drinks beer cause he is married)

The significance of the silence of King Santanu gets even more profound. He never once uttered the word "WHY?" to Ganga in all those years. Not for throwing the child in the river. Not for anything else that might have happened.

Do you see, Ms. Renuka Chowdhury? Do you see the extent to which a men can handle
opression from women for sake of marriage, for sake of love?

Modern Men also do not oppress their women as often as Women do. Men not even ask "Why" many times although they are not bound by a promise as King Santanu was.

Hell, I also have so many Why's that I did not ask to my wife. Many of my Why’s also got buried somewhere way down deep. Maybe I’ll vent ‘em out and someone will answer on behalf of my wife.

Why did you cook Dal with Shrikhand? Why did you not use the new tea leaves that I get for you? Why did you colour your hair blue?

Do my SIF friends see what I am getting at? Maybe, just maybe there is a light at the end of tunnel. Maybe this is what Ms. Renuka wants from all us husbands. Never ever utter the word “Why” or she'll go after your chromosome Y. Ouch!! It hurts.

Glad I'm Batchelor. Ok, Ok all Right I am Divorced. I declare myself to be single unless I mingle. The point is that my Why's are safe. And so are my Y chromosomes.
I can splurge 'em wherever I want with reckless abandon. Gratefully only true boys will understand the true meaning of reckless abandon!

Ok, back to Mahabharata!

Was the King Santanu stone-hearted? Or stoned? I know people did not use such things in those days. So what is it?

Why OH Why then did he never ask Why!? to his wife.

King Santanu did not utter why because he was a married man and had made a promise
to his wife in order to get married. He faced oppression from his wife so that
she may remain married to him. So that he can have a family. So that he can have
a heir and continue his royal lineage.

The beloved wife of King Santanu ruled the King with a sword dangling over his marriage. One mistake and it would be all over. Boy OH BOY What an experience.

What a marriage.

Feminism must have been a raging fire 5000 years ago. Isn't it? It must be so scalding hot that even the King of entire land could not dare to lift a voice to his wife or risk demise of his marriage.

King Santanu was definitely not a weakling. He was the King. I imagine he would slice neck of men who'd dare to look at him or his subjects with malice but was as silent as a stone in front of Ganga.

I assume that King Santanu spoke to his beloved wife Ganga regularly. So in all those conversations, he would have always spoken kind words.

Imagine the pain that King Santanu went through. His 7 newborn male children and heir to his throne were murdered by their mother and he had to continue to live with her. Not only live but talk to her about other things. Talk to her and make her pregnant. King Santanu did all of his duties but never challenged her.

Santanu was a King after all. If Ganga was playing a hard-ball, He could also have muttered "Darling, Humne bhi koi Kachi Goli Nahi Kheli" or some such dialogue.

He could have found himself another woman, got married to her and made her pregnant instead and let Ganga eat Khatti Imli just to keep herself busy.

But the great faithful and loving husband that he was, he did not do that. He stayed loyal to his beloved wife Ganga.

As the story continues, he finally his wife asked the Why for the inhuman act of throwing his eight child, his infant into the River. The epic says and I quote "He spoke harshly to her for the first time".

Ganga spared the life of the eigth son and told the King Santanu a story about her killings. She concluded “now that you asked me and interfered with me, I will not live with you anymore. I will not be your wife from now on. I will not dump this child into the river but make him into a man fit enough to rule your kingdom. And she left.

Ganga explained to the her traumatised husband that 7 infants killed by her were Vasus who had been cursed into human form. She had made a promise to help them live their curse and keep their life as small as possible. So their kind mother Ganga performed a cruel job of killing them and releasing the soul of Vasu.

Today, we Hindus Celebrate Ganga as a mother of our Vedic Civilisation.

Isn't it too ironic that Kamsa used the exact same explanation for killing his 7 nephews but he was punished to death. Some might say that Punishment of Kamsa for killing 7 children still continues.

Back to Mahabharata.

King of the Land had to accept waiting for 16 years to see his son that he managed to save. He had to console himself that he finally had a hope of heir.

He did not go marry another woman as soon as Ganga left him. He longed to see his son taken away by Ganga. He waited for another 16 years.

8 to 10 years of a great marriage and 7 dumpings of infant in river followed by 16 years of staying unmarried.

He met his son when he was a prince and a warrior. Thankfully, Ganga had done a great job at raising their only son Devavrata.

The ministers in India say that India is the male-dominated society from time immemorial where women play second fiddle to her man.

We felicitate the woman who killed 7 of her own children as the mother of the nation. We say that if one take a full dip into river form of Ganga, all his accumulated bad karma of past 7 lives will be washed away.

I say, India is indeed a male dominated society.
In India, male are dominated by female every step of the way .

Hats off to King Santanu. Hats off to his fortitude amidst such an opression.
Hats off to his love to beget the child. Hats off to his faithfulness to his.
Hats off to the one who wrote Mahabharata.

Hats of to the River Ganga.

Now, at least now I can come to terms that my wife wanted to throw my son on railway tracks.

Dear Ms. Renuka Chowdhury. Are you listening? Do I now have your attention.

This was not the isolated incident for King Santanu.

His wife number two started chain of events that eventually led to the battle of Mahabharata. The epic battle in which 18 AXAHANI's were killed. The battle ground in which the Jewel of Indian epic, Srimad Bhagvad Gita came into existence.

King Santanu tried to live his life again and again fell for fisherman's daughter Satyavati.

Even in his second marriage, father of the bride called the shots. The poor fisherman extracted the unchallenged right to throne of the King Santanu just cause he was the father of the bride. His son Devavrata gave up the price for little bit of joy for his father and in doing so, Bheesma bonded himself into the service to throne.

King managed to gets sons out of Satyavati but his sons died before getting heirs. Even after living through 7 murders of his own son by his wife, direct lineage of the King Santanu eventually perished.

His only surviving son Bheesma died on 16th January 3122BC.
(Hey, Today is the death anniversary of Bheeshma, WOW!!)

The dynasty of King Santanu was carried forward by Sages like Parashar, Vedvyas and eventually with divine intervention from Dharmaraj, Indra, Vayu and Ashwini Kumar.

The woman who did this to him is still roaming free and worshipped in her River form.

This much amount of punch of Mahabharata is in first 9 pages.

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CONCLUDING THOUGHTS
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Before the imported western feminist ideologies were even born, men in India respected the woman. A respect so deep that even 5000 year dust and countless foreign regimes have not managed to cause the dent.

Using 5000 year old history of our nation, I emphatically state that Men are not violent to women inside the house. Men are not violent even when women committed
the most dastardly act when viewed from our mundane material senses.

Men were gentle before the word Gentleman was heard in India. Men like King Santanu were epitomes of word gentlemen. He did not misuse his power unlike modern day female ministers. Men did not opress their women in past. Men do not opress woman in present.

Each Men just snaps at differnt points in time to the opression from his woman.

So whatever imported ideologies you are using to justify liberation of Women is a big farce. Be Indian. Use Swadeshi. Use Mahabharata as an example.

Even 5000 years ago, King of the land, the most powerful men was helpless against his wife. You do not need to protect the women at all. Women do not need protection.

Government just needs to protect the men. They will do their duty willingly and protect their women far better than all of the laws put together. Men need women
for the gift that they posses of taking the human race forward. Men protect their
women for sake of their children.

There are thousands of men who think and behave to various shades of King Santanu.

Dear Government of India, you need to change gears and dismantle WCD and all
its evil cousins pronto. India will fare better without WCD or 498A or DV ...

King Santanu Amar Raha
Jab Tak Suraj Chand Rahega, Santanu tera naam rahega.

We WANT Welfare Ministry for Men.
We WANT to make male infanticide illegal too.

Ahem! There I said my bit, guys.

Chant after me ....

We WANT Welfare Ministry for Men.
We WANT to make male infanticide illegal too.

Dhun Macha De

Once more, come on you people !!

Chant after me ...

Meet the Divide and Rule Demon

Over the past few days, I have been depressed and feeling completely let down. I have been reading lots of articles and emails on the groups and internet and the more I read, the more I feel depressed.

I am feeling let down because there is an emergence of a voice within me that says to me that Article 498a was not a result of incompetence on the part of the Government of India.

Contrary to what Bollywood has often portrayed, The Government of India is not collection of by blundering fools and lazy bureaucrats who inadvertently created the monster named IPC 498a.

IPC 498a is probably the most brilliantly laid out strategy of a Divide-And-Rule. The phrase “Divide-And-Rule” for many amongst us may bring images of a British Viceroy ruthlessly segregating Indian population for ruling. It is said in history books that though Hindus and Muslims fought before British came, their fights were largely political. On a social level, they had accepted existence of each other with few sporadic and violence marred attempts of conversions.

When Viewed in this manner, the strategy behind IPC 498a is the ultimate frontier. It divides the fabric of society and the line of demarcation cuts across every house in every country across the world. IPC 498a divides a man from a woman like nothing else can.

The individual who coined the name of “Save Indian Family” for our, this group did zero in on the ultimate devastation that this divide-and-rule strategy of IPC 498a will cause; most (including me) missed upon the objective behind formation of the 498a.

A proverb that comes to my mind is that “One can wake up those who are asleep; BUT one cannot wake up those who are pretending to be asleep”

All of the activities of our group are primarily geared towards collecting men and waking up the government and spread public awareness towards the atrocities that aimed towards the men. All of us are collectively beating up our chests in despair that the government (the mai-baap) does not seem to understand or listen to our pleas.

But, the government is wide awake and listening to us carefully. Alas, it is not listening to us as male victims. It views us as providers of feedback on how 498a is faring. It is just pretending to be deaf, callous and incompetent when we share our traumas due to IPC 498a. The government knows that it was precisely the intent behind IPC 498a. So, when we narrate our side with full emotions, the government is silently congratulating itself and upwardly showing sympathy to us. Government in rare candid moments does show disdain but never budges.

All of our activities are just the fuel that the IPC 498a juggernaut needs to grow: Our painstakingly created websites, our weekly meets, our Dharanas, our attempts to spread awareness, our sarcastic jabs, our direct assaults; our efforts to fight our own cases; our willingness to help other fellow distressed brothers, mothers and sisters will completely work against us unless we bear in mind that actually division is intended.

When we call our ex with word bitch we are dividing and distancing ourselves. Our efforts divide us further from the woman. We all feel angered and we all are focussed on hurting the other side. It is indeed ironic that few angered 498a woman calls her husband Kutta

Now, I suddenly understand meaning of what Swarup Sarkar said to me “The enemy is not your wife but the system”.

As I can all of a sudden visualise, 498a is supposed to divide a man from a woman. All that is required for such division to occur is that both sides feel that they more vulnerable than the other.

British achieved division of Hindus and Muslims by making Muslims leaders realize that minority will suffer under majority rule. For Hindus, they said majority will be denied privileges under minority rule. And, Pakistan was born.

The more we fight in this manner, the harder we fight, the stronger 498a will become. It seems that our efforts of protests were rewarded by the birth to Domestic Violence Laws.

It is like we are part of the Matrix movie. We are part and parcel of the IPC 498a system and our appointed role in this machine is to raise voice and vent out our fear and our anger against our former wives and the female groups reciprocate.

IPC 498a makers used their power to publicise that newly wed wives, not mothers or sisters are harassed in the typical Indian family.

When I saw the movie “Dulha Bikta hai” I was so moved by it that if someone had actually told me that the Indian government had recently formed IPC 498a that would now terrorise the husbands, I would have danced on streets.

Many like me in the Indian society accepted introduction of IPC 498a that had built-in Trojan of Divide and Rule. I've become aware of damages it caused 25 years later.

Hindu scriptures do have anecdotes of demons who grow stronger with every injury because their blood drop on ground will cause more demons. I am beginning to see 498a as something similar. We all need to know who exactly our enemy is and how we are disadvantaged.

Let us all think and share on how we can change gears and not seek to be victims of the ultimate kind.

To be continued: How do we foil this divide and rule strategy?